3 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life (without having sex) by Dr. Mindy
Create a Lifestyle that Makes You Feel Sexy
As a Sexologist with a concierge mental health practice in Miami, there are a few commonreasons people call my office for emergent help. One of these reasons seems to be a lack oflibido and a loss of excitement in the bedroom is a close second. I truly love my work because I get to help people unpack these issues and help all of us live the sex life we desire!
How can I help you with your sex life? Let's discuss a few things to keep in mind when escaping a sexual rut and launching your sex life to the next level!
Your pleasure is constantly changing. The first rule of thumb is to avoid using the word "Never". To experience a thriving and satisfying sex life, we must continuously explore our bodies, sexual pleasure, and engage in "The Sex Talk" with our partner. Let's get down to the secret of sustaining a happy libido and repeatedly achieving the big "O" ...
Intimacy without Intercourse
What is sexier than actually having sex? Extending tantalizing foreplay. Below are a few ideas to extend your foreplay and spice up your sex life.
Post-pandemic many of us live in yoga pants, hair in a bun, and no makeup. With life in a relaxed position, my advice here is to make the effort to feel mentally and physically sexy. We need to consider that the atmosphere around us has a major impact on our mental health. If you are visibly looking at a cluttered room for example, that visual information can make you feel anxious or uneasy. Anxiety and stress are major libido squashers so my tip here is to create a home atmosphere that is visibly and physically relaxing and sexy. Think mood, lighting, sexy scents, etc.
In addition to what we see, what we feel has an impact starting with the clothing against your skin matters.
As a Sexologist with a concierge mental health practice in Miami, there are a few commonreasons people call my office for emergent help. One of these reasons seems to be a lack oflibido and a loss of excitement in the bedroom is a close second. I truly love my work because I get to help people unpack these issues and help all of us live the sex life we desire!
How can I help you with your sex life? Let's discuss a few things to keep in mind when escaping a sexual rut and launching your sex life to the next level!
Your pleasure is constantly changing. The first rule of thumb is to avoid using the word "Never". To experience a thriving and satisfying sex life, we must continuously explore our bodies, sexual pleasure, and engage in "The Sex Talk" with our partner. Let's get down to the secret of sustaining a happy libido and repeatedly achieving the big "O" ...
Intimacy without Intercourse
What is sexier than actually having sex? Extending tantalizing foreplay. Below are a few ideas to extend your foreplay and spice up your sex life.
Post-pandemic many of us live in yoga pants, hair in a bun, and no makeup. With life in a relaxed position, my advice here is to make the effort to feel mentally and physically sexy. We need to consider that the atmosphere around us has a major impact on our mental health. If you are visibly looking at a cluttered room for example, that visual information can make you feel anxious or uneasy. Anxiety and stress are major libido squashers so my tip here is to create a home atmosphere that is visibly and physically relaxing and sexy. Think mood, lighting, sexy scents, etc.
In addition to what we see, what we feel has an impact starting with the clothing against your skin matters.
When choosing a lingerie piece, think about the clothing styles you love that fit your individual body type and that matches your personality. Whether this be certain colors you like, materials, etc. find one that brings out your inner sexy and remember this is for YOU!
Reminder when choosing an a lingerie piece that makes you feel confident and strong, it does not need to be provocative. The goal of this exercise is to feel emotionally strong. Another way to experience this is by starting with wearing your lingerie underneath your clothing.
You could try wearing a fun set of pasties where no one has to know but you! I recommend the Secret Kisses Heart School Girl Pasties.
Reminder when choosing an a lingerie piece that makes you feel confident and strong, it does not need to be provocative. The goal of this exercise is to feel emotionally strong. Another way to experience this is by starting with wearing your lingerie underneath your clothing.
You could try wearing a fun set of pasties where no one has to know but you! I recommend the Secret Kisses Heart School Girl Pasties.
Hit the hot spots
Did you know that the clitoris is made up of over 10,000 nerves? It's sole purpose is pleasure, so don't forget about it! Toys are a sexy way to enjoy outercourse and extend the foreplay. Not only are they exciting, but it is a tantalizing and rewarding experience to shop for a sex toy. Let's be real, after buying a new vibe, everyone is eager to rush home and turn it on (and we can thank the manufacturers for shipping them with half a battery charge). For example, a rose vibrator is a fantastic option when looking for a unique and sexy toy for clitoral stimulation. Find something that intrigues you and your partner. Sometimes even having the discussion to bring in toys is sexy and gets you excited.
Oh, and don't underestimate the pleasure of anal! There are a tremendous number of nerves in the anus. Don't be shy, try an anal plug. Just remember, start small and work your way up.
Did you know that the clitoris is made up of over 10,000 nerves? It's sole purpose is pleasure, so don't forget about it! Toys are a sexy way to enjoy outercourse and extend the foreplay. Not only are they exciting, but it is a tantalizing and rewarding experience to shop for a sex toy. Let's be real, after buying a new vibe, everyone is eager to rush home and turn it on (and we can thank the manufacturers for shipping them with half a battery charge). For example, a rose vibrator is a fantastic option when looking for a unique and sexy toy for clitoral stimulation. Find something that intrigues you and your partner. Sometimes even having the discussion to bring in toys is sexy and gets you excited.
Oh, and don't underestimate the pleasure of anal! There are a tremendous number of nerves in the anus. Don't be shy, try an anal plug. Just remember, start small and work your way up.
Surender all Control
This may be the most difficult challenge of all, or it may be very simple: relinquish all control to your partner. The kinkiest way to spice up your sex life is to dabble in the world of BDSM.BDSM doesn't have to be about whips and chains. It can be as simple as just letting go and following your partner's instructions. Surrendering control and participating in submission opens a new avenue for experiencing pleasure, deepening intimate connections, and improving sexual communication.
Bondage is the next step in this progression and is an ancient and elegant art. Whipsmart has tools with a luxurious look and feel, and only produces high-quality bondage play sets. These preassembled bondage sets are great place to start for beginners and will bring creativity and excitement to any session.
This may be the most difficult challenge of all, or it may be very simple: relinquish all control to your partner. The kinkiest way to spice up your sex life is to dabble in the world of BDSM.BDSM doesn't have to be about whips and chains. It can be as simple as just letting go and following your partner's instructions. Surrendering control and participating in submission opens a new avenue for experiencing pleasure, deepening intimate connections, and improving sexual communication.
Bondage is the next step in this progression and is an ancient and elegant art. Whipsmart has tools with a luxurious look and feel, and only produces high-quality bondage play sets. These preassembled bondage sets are great place to start for beginners and will bring creativity and excitement to any session.
Even the simplest step into this world can be exciting. I suggest beginning with a blindfold- it will broaden the physical experience, and enhance your other four senses.
All in all, falling into a sexual rut is not uncommon and it certainly doesn't mean that you're doomed forever. Remember your pleasure is constantly changing! To stay in-tune with your hidden desires, listen to the whispers in your mind and communicate them with your partner. Be willing to hear what your partner is excited by too and take the time to continue exploring your body and sexual curiosities. Once the door is open, you will discover a cornucopia of new experiences to share with the person you love!
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